Comments on: The Art of Verbal Intimidation : Learn it and fight back! http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/ Beyond Communication Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:34:31 +1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: simplistic thoughts http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1064 simplistic thoughts Mon, 25 Jan 2010 10:14:41 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1064 Very very good article. Like you said the power to control the situation is by going at your own pace and remaining calm. Very very good article. Like you said the power to control the situation is by going at your own pace and remaining calm.

]]> By: Chandrashekhar http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1036 Chandrashekhar Wed, 16 Dec 2009 04:55:38 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1036 Great!! I too had a situation like it. Can anybody comment on it? While sharing a room at a project site, my co-occupant used to make calls on his cell at 1100 pm onwards & talk at strech more than 30-45 min. (I needed to go to bed & I have very sensitive sleep-pattern.)He initially had a low voice , low tone hence IN ORDER TO MAINTAIN relations, I ignored it. Later he used to go to bed at 900pm, expect me to put off the lights & put alarm at 1050pm-1100pm to wake up for his calls as the CALLS after 1100pm were free!! One day I woke up with a scare at midnight as his cellphone was ringing & he was talking loudly.Then I told him that his late nights calls were disturbing me greatly. He was offensive to my comment & said that it was his right to talk on phone & that I just should try to sleep & not be intimidating to him.I TOLD HIM THAT HE WAS FREE TO TALK EITHER ELSEWHERE OR (IF FROM ROOM ) WHEN I WAS NOT SLEEPING & HE WAS SAVING MONEY AT MY COST. Then he became more aggressive & violent & started verbal attack. I firmly told him that he was aggressive & his aggression was not welcome. HIS PHONE WAS STILL ON!! He later told his counterpart that "this "unreasonable" person always disturbs me"! His aggression carried for next couple of days. He started verbal attacks. I FIRMLY TOLD HIM THAT HIS ATTACK WAS NOT WELCOME & ANY DISCUSSION WOULD TAKE PLACE ONLY IF HE PACIFIES. He commented" Who wants to talk to you?..". I was however firm.I remained firm, used put on lights & started reading my favourite books till his cell was on! When he realised that I was not disturbed at core & was firm on stand, he started using other deceptive tools. Finally his aggression apparantly slowed down. It is important to be firm & confident. You may win a battle or not. It is not that much important. The process of firmness is vital for mental peace. Great!!

I too had a situation like it. Can anybody comment on it?
While sharing a room at a project site, my co-occupant used to make calls on his cell at 1100 pm onwards & talk at strech more than 30-45 min. (I needed to go to bed & I have very sensitive sleep-pattern.)He initially had a low voice , low tone hence IN ORDER TO MAINTAIN relations, I ignored it. Later he used to go to bed at 900pm, expect me to put off the lights & put alarm at 1050pm-1100pm to wake up for his calls as the CALLS after 1100pm were free!!
One day I woke up with a scare at midnight as his cellphone was ringing & he was talking loudly.Then I told him that his late nights calls were disturbing me greatly. He was offensive to my comment & said that it was his right to talk on phone & that I just should try to sleep & not be intimidating to him.I TOLD HIM THAT HE WAS FREE TO TALK EITHER ELSEWHERE OR (IF FROM ROOM ) WHEN I WAS NOT SLEEPING & HE WAS SAVING MONEY AT MY COST. Then he became more aggressive & violent & started verbal attack. I firmly told him that he was aggressive & his aggression was not welcome. HIS PHONE WAS STILL ON!! He later told his counterpart that “this “unreasonable” person always disturbs me”!
His aggression carried for next couple of days. He started verbal attacks. I FIRMLY TOLD HIM THAT HIS ATTACK WAS NOT WELCOME & ANY DISCUSSION WOULD TAKE PLACE ONLY IF HE PACIFIES. He commented” Who wants to talk to you?..”. I was however firm.I remained firm, used put on lights & started reading my favourite books till his cell was on! When he realised that I was not disturbed at core & was firm on stand, he started using other deceptive tools. Finally his aggression apparantly slowed down.
It is important to be firm & confident. You may win a battle or not. It is not that much important. The process of firmness is vital for mental peace.

]]> By: Racquel http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1027 Racquel Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:26:05 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1027 This is a great write. I really enjoyed it and found a lot of truth. Action vs' Reaction Thanks! Racquel This is a great write. I really enjoyed it and found a lot of truth.

Action vs’ Reaction

Thanks!

Racquel

]]> By: WER http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1025 WER Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:12:21 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1025 This article on intimidation hits the nail on the head. I have a distant uncle who had no other choice but to go into the USMC. He learned this verbal tactics there. He is always looking at weak points and goes for them like a barracuda. I think he sometimes does it for sport just to keep his skills sharp. He knows he owes me money. He tries to deflect attention from the real issue. Then he finds something to point his finger at with me. I just walk away. Let him talk to the wall. He has been warned verbally by the police. WER This article on intimidation hits the nail on the head. I have a distant uncle who had no other choice but to go into the USMC. He learned this verbal tactics there. He is always looking at weak points and goes for them like a barracuda. I think he sometimes does it for sport just to keep his skills sharp.

He knows he owes me money. He tries to deflect attention from the real issue. Then he finds something to point his finger at with me.

I just walk away. Let him talk to the wall. He has been warned verbally by the police.

WER

]]> By: Darkfall Gold http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1023 Darkfall Gold Mon, 05 Oct 2009 01:18:50 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1023 Thank you, Jay. It’s great. Thank you, Jay. It’s great.

]]> By: Dale http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1018 Dale Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:54:50 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-1018 Good tidbits! The "Bait" bullying is oftentimes more subtle than that. What I mean is that sometimes the bullies use the bait within earshot of the target and not directly at the target. Usually they are trying to drum up sympathy/social/political capital by saying, "Hey guys look at him, join-in on the fun!" Do you have any techniques to fight this overt/duplicitous attack? Good tidbits! The “Bait” bullying is oftentimes more subtle than that. What I mean is that sometimes the bullies use the bait within earshot of the target and not directly at the target. Usually they are trying to drum up sympathy/social/political capital by saying, “Hey guys look at him, join-in on the fun!” Do you have any techniques to fight this overt/duplicitous attack?

]]> By: Gina http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-219 Gina Wed, 11 Mar 2009 07:04:46 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-219 Thank you for this article. It is something I have needed for a long time coming. I suffered a great deal to the point of etreme emotional and mental exhaustion from my work environment because I did not know how to handle an intimidating and domineering person. I suffered too much. This information gives me renewed hope and belief that I can now take back and keep my power. My God given right. I just did not know how and I got tired of being afraid of people who misbehaved that I perceived could hurt me somehow. This also applies to some non-work encounters that I have had as well. I just wish I had learned this sooner, when I was younger. It would have saved me much suffering, anxiety, fear of people, and feelings of powerlessness. The comments of the others readers were very helpful to me as well. Thank you all for your feedback. Keep up the excellent work Jay. You help me to feel and be empowered! Please keep it coming. Thank you for this article. It is something I have needed for a long time coming. I suffered a great deal to the point of etreme emotional and mental exhaustion from my work environment because I did not know how to handle an intimidating and domineering person. I suffered too much. This information gives me renewed hope and belief that I can now take back and keep my power. My God given right. I just did not know how and I got tired of being afraid of people who misbehaved that I perceived could hurt me somehow. This also applies to some non-work encounters that I have had as well. I just wish I had learned this sooner, when I was younger. It would have saved me much suffering, anxiety, fear of people, and feelings of powerlessness.

The comments of the others readers were very helpful to me as well. Thank you all for your feedback.

Keep up the excellent work Jay. You help me to feel and be empowered! Please keep it coming.

]]> By: Vincent http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-168 Vincent Fri, 07 Nov 2008 06:07:31 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-168 I really enjoyed this post and would love to read more like it. I've been in these type of situations a number of times and it is often difficult not to be overcome with emotions. You offer some great advice here. Thanks. Vincent. I really enjoyed this post and would love to read more like it. I’ve been in these type of situations a number of times and it is often difficult not to be overcome with emotions. You offer some great advice here. Thanks.

Vincent.

]]> By: Amabel http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-173 Amabel Thu, 09 Oct 2008 05:28:43 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-173 Thank you, Jay. It's great. Thank you, Jay. It’s great.

]]> By: Polymathea http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-172 Polymathea Thu, 04 Sep 2008 18:03:26 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/01/09/the-art-of-verbal-intimidation-learn-it-and-fight-back/#comment-172 Superbly written articles. I am in the process of building my blogs, for training purposes purely & am always on the look out for exceptional & easy to understand content. You have surpassed all expectations. If there is a backlink I could use to link with your blog directly, it would be a huge contribution. Sincerely, Sheetal Pune, INDIA Superbly written articles.

I am in the process of building my blogs, for training purposes purely & am always on the look out for exceptional & easy to understand content. You have surpassed all expectations.

If there is a backlink I could use to link with your blog directly, it would be a huge contribution.

Sincerely,
Sheetal
Pune, INDIA

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