Comments on: Handling Insults: With some of your own http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/ Beyond Communication Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:34:31 +1000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: wendy http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-1017 wendy Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:55:27 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-1017 During my highschool years I met someone like finix. He has absolutely no clear train of thought, can't make anybody understand him even if a gun is pointed at his forehead and yet how he loved to critize. You know, you are doing a great job with this blog. I really enjoy reading. Keep up the good work! During my highschool years I met someone like finix. He has absolutely no clear train of thought, can’t make anybody understand him even if a gun is pointed at his forehead and yet how he loved to critize.

You know, you are doing a great job with this blog. I really enjoy reading. Keep up the good work!

]]> By: DeborahA http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-1008 DeborahA Wed, 09 Sep 2009 17:04:46 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-1008 OK, but what happens when you deliver the line to your boss in response to his inappropriate public comment, and then he says, "Oh you're just being oversensitive - you need to get a thicker skin" and then walks away. OK, but what happens when you deliver the line to your boss in response to his inappropriate public comment, and then he says, “Oh you’re just being oversensitive – you need to get a thicker skin” and then walks away.

]]> By: Hurt http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-985 Hurt Tue, 30 Jun 2009 13:40:10 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-985 Hi Jay, I have just started work at a new department. My mentor is a great teacher, but he is fouled mouth and critical of everyone. And since I am new, he has more to say about me.I am 114 pounds, he teases me about my weight.Today, he criticized my complexion cos of my acne scars. I hid in the Ladies and cried. I don't know what to do. If I offend him, he may not teach me well? As a new staff of the department, It may reflect badly on me should I file a complaint? I lost my confidence in a flash. I would find stuff to shoot back most of the time, but for my complexion, I have absolutely nothing to talk back for I really do not have pretty skin. this is something that really hurts me alot. Could you please help me. Hi Jay, I have just started work at a new department. My mentor is a great teacher, but he is fouled mouth and critical of everyone. And since I am new, he has more to say about me.I am 114 pounds, he teases me about my weight.Today, he criticized my complexion cos of my acne scars. I hid in the Ladies and cried. I don’t know what to do. If I offend him, he may not teach me well? As a new staff of the department, It may reflect badly on me should I file a complaint? I lost my confidence in a flash. I would find stuff to shoot back most of the time, but for my complexion, I have absolutely nothing to talk back for I really do not have pretty skin. this is something that really hurts me alot. Could you please help me.

]]> By: andrew http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-984 andrew Sat, 30 May 2009 00:22:32 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-984 made a very good readin!..nicely done made a very good readin!..nicely done

]]> By: anonymous http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-977 anonymous Mon, 16 Feb 2009 22:54:42 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-977 Jay, I read your article and thought you might help me. I am married ,working and a mother. I always feel like my colleuges in my work as well as friends in our group make jokes about me and talk to me indirectly all the time in front of me. I am a very reserved person i do not open up very freely. I keep to myself at work and also at parties but people start talking in front of me indirectly and say things not sure why ...can you help me how to over come this situations.....I really get hurt many times and get depressed. Jay, I read your article and thought you might help me. I am married ,working and a mother. I always feel like my colleuges in my work as well as friends in our group make jokes about me and talk to me indirectly all the time in front of me. I am a very reserved person i do not open up very freely. I keep to myself at work and also at parties but people start talking in front of me indirectly and say things not sure why …can you help me how to over come this situations…..I really get hurt many times and get depressed.

]]> By: Truly Great Insults - King Rat http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-979 Truly Great Insults - King Rat Mon, 26 Jan 2009 08:21:53 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-979 [...] From Jay Morrissey: They wasted a good ass putting teeth in that mouth. [...] [...] From Jay Morrissey: They wasted a good ass putting teeth in that mouth. [...]

]]> By: casey http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-982 casey Sun, 11 Jan 2009 00:08:49 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-982 good advice ^.^ and those were some great examples too. i enjoyed reading this. good advice ^.^ and those were some great examples too. i enjoyed reading this.

]]> By: Amabel http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-981 Amabel Thu, 09 Oct 2008 04:57:46 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-981 Hey, Thank you. :) The article was very helpful. "You're flattering yourself if you think I give a sh*t", and "Are you trying to be funny at my expense" and "that's just what the world needs....another bully", I'll remember these. I have been a favorite victim of bullies, both as a child in school and as an adult in the office. It has an effect on me until now that I still remember the hurful words and embarrassment I experienced. Hey,

Thank you. :)

The article was very helpful. “You’re flattering yourself if you think I give a sh*t”, and “Are you trying to be funny at my expense” and “that’s just what the world needs….another bully”, I’ll remember these.

I have been a favorite victim of bullies, both as a child in school and as an adult in the office. It has an effect on me until now that I still remember the hurful words and embarrassment I experienced.

]]> By: curbedtone http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-978 curbedtone Fri, 03 Oct 2008 15:38:56 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-978 Jay, Ive come across this site by accident. But its definitely going up on my “must read blogs” list. Thanks for taking the time Jay, Ive come across this site by accident. But its definitely going up on my “must read blogs” list.
Thanks for taking the time

]]> By: lynn http://jaymorrissey.com/blog/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-980 lynn Sat, 20 Sep 2008 22:02:10 +0000 http://www.jaymorrissey.com/2008/05/28/handling-insults-with-some-of-your-own/#comment-980 Scrollin' 'round the net and came across your site. Great article Jay! Thoughtful and some great responses. Recently at work, our IT consultant went into extreme anxiety about storing company data offsite for security purposes. I am not joking when I say this - he actually drew me a picture!! while haranguing me of how to turn off & unplug an external HD, switch with a new one and then store the original HD offsite for security purposes. DUH! I've been doing minor computer troubleshooting in my jobs for 10+ yrs. Needless to say, I found it quite condescending to stand there, be lectured and given a hand-drawn picture as if I were some 2 yr. old. I try my best to be 'Buddha' in these situations, remain calm and roll my eyeballs in private, but there are times tho' when it becomes necessary AND IMPORTANT to stand up for oneself. Why am I so steamed by all of this?? Because it was done in front of a co-worker. I wish I'd come up with some witty, clever comment to put IT man in his place. IT man has recently been hired by our company and my job requires me to liaise with him several times a week. I need to confront this situation head on, so there's no repeat of this childish and patronizing behaviour. Any thoughts or comebacks? Scrollin’ ’round the net and came across your site. Great article Jay! Thoughtful and some great responses.

Recently at work, our IT consultant went into extreme anxiety about storing company data offsite for security purposes. I am not joking when I say this – he actually drew me a picture!! while haranguing me of how to turn off & unplug an external HD, switch with a new one and then store the original HD offsite for security purposes. DUH! I’ve been doing minor computer troubleshooting in my jobs for 10+ yrs. Needless to say, I found it quite condescending to stand there, be lectured and given a hand-drawn picture as if I were some 2 yr. old. I try my best to be ‘Buddha’ in these situations, remain calm and roll my eyeballs in private, but there are times tho’ when it becomes necessary AND IMPORTANT to stand up for oneself.

Why am I so steamed by all of this?? Because it was done in front of a co-worker. I wish I’d come up with some witty, clever comment to put IT man in his place. IT man has recently been hired by our company and my job requires me to liaise with him several times a week. I need to confront this situation head on, so there’s no repeat of this childish and patronizing behaviour. Any thoughts or comebacks?

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